There’s a difference between feeling bad and feeling pain.
Pain can be very good. It can be necessary for healing, necessary for understanding the contrast, and in some cases can be quite pleasurable. Pain is healthy, in moderation. Feeling bad on the other hand, is unnecessary. It’s not useful, and unless you find a way to work with the experience, and ultimately learn from it, it serves very little purpose. Some examples of feeling bad are: generally having a yucky feeling, feeling guilty, jealous, or insecure, and over all feeling the opposite of good. You can feel good and experience pain. You can be sad, you can mourn, and you can experience loss– even heartbreak– and still feel good. You can know there is goodness to be had from your own life, and you can be comfortable knowing that the temporary discomfort is useful somehow– useful in a way that brings forth more good, rather than feeling bad.
My latest definition of health: health is when, for every single negative experience, you have two or three positive experiences… this can be actual situations you walk through, this can be things you say about yourself or others, or this can even be merely thoughts that flee through your mind… for every single negative, you can come up with two or three positives. That, my friends, is HEALTH. It includes emotional, spiritual, physical and mental health… all of these facets should have two or three goods for every single bad…
How healthy are you?
I do believe that all emotions are valid… and all experiences are worthy of experiencing simply because you have opportunities to go through them– learn about yourself through them, and to come out a more wise person in the end: knowing how to handle them the next time you are presented with such experiences (and you will be). I do believe negative emotions are valid, but I also believe that what you emit is what you emote– what you talk about affects the feelings of the people around you, and it affects you directly. It’s important to be cognizant of your thoughts and what you “put out there” because not only is it causing you to experience what you’re putting out, but you’re causing other people to experience it as well.
As a responsible, affective, affecting human being, it should be within your priority to be conscious and aware of what emotions you are experiencing, and what you are reflecting to others.
So… these are my response to “it’s okay to feel bad.” I don’t know that it’s wrong, really. But it just doesn’t seem right. When there are so many other ways to use your energy, I feel like using it in a way that is conducive to health would be the better way. *shrug*
Or maybe I’m just some silly hippie.
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