I’ve learned that the RIGHT decisions aren’t always the easiest to make, and they certainly don’t always have consequences that fall in line with what I have planned. Sometimes the RIGHT choices are the ones that are for myself, and my own interests, even if they are not what the people closest to me would have chosen. Sometimes the RIGHT thing to do for my own well being isn’t the right thing for anyone else, and that doesn’t make the RIGHT thing any less viable as an option (or any less RIGHT for me).
This experience is utterly about learning from our environment. It’s about learning how to make good decisions, and knowing that what you choose not only has consequences, but requires you to think through the consequences prior to acting– and more importantly offers you the opportunity to make adjustments to your plans if an unexpected consequence arises. It encourages you to own all of the consequences– good and bad– because you know that the decisions you’ve made are the ones you are responsible for, and therefore can appreciate whatever comes from them because they’re YOUR decisions. It’s about knowing that there ultimately are many RIGHT decisions you can make for yourself and essentially eliminates and WRONG decisions from occurring even as possibilities, because when you’re making good decisions for yourself, the WRONG decision would never happen.
It’s much like when a friend comes to me for advice. My favorite advice I love to give is, “I know you will make the right decision when the time comes for it, and I trust your decision making abilities.” I know, that’s not very specific advice, but what it comes down to is that I trust my own ability to make good decisions with regards to the people I surround myself with, and I trust their ability to consider their choices and own up to and learn from the consequences of any decision they make.
There is no sin, only experiences you refuse to learn from.
This last year was about changing the behaviors that weren’t working for me. I could name a thousand different things I learned, and I do feel confident that when I acknowledged a behavior that wasn’t working, I sought out a new behavior to replace it. I knew that even if it was the wrong new behavior, it wasn’t the old behavior, and therefore it would serve its purpose because at least then I would know.
It’s become significantly easier to address “mistakes” as such… to know that there really are NO mistakes, only opportunities. This change of perspective has led me to making more bold decisions– and with great risk often comes exceedingly great reward.
So, I’ve identified behaviors that aren’t working, and I have worked hard to replace them. I have been nearly fearless when it came to the replacement behavior because I knew that whatever I chose to replace it with was going to be fine. I wouldn’t make a bad decision, because ultimately the things that were outside of my nature wouldn’t happen– and so I never even considered them. The things that were possibilities within my nature, I embraced. With great risk comes great reward.
This is the truth in all experience.
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May 2nd, 2008 at 11:57 pm
I will be coming here again to comment on your posts, Ash!I am kinda busy now.. Will speak out my opinion soon!